Thursday, August 14, 2025

Dear Abby (age 13)

 

OMG!  You are THIRTEEN!!  Like, a real life teenager.  I can not believe it…like, not even a little bit.  Somehow you’ve aged 13 years and I think I’ve only aged 2 – LOL!  In all seriousness though, I am so so proud of the person you are growing up to be.  You are smart and kind and you have a great big heart.  You are still the rule follower and the litigator of the family.  You are very much a tiny version of me.  I see it in your desire to be perfect, your desire to please…the way you take the lead when nobody steps up to do it.  I saw it just last weekend when we were camping and I looked over at the playground and you were organizing maybe 20 little kids to play a game.  You looked like a little camp counselor and I could tell that you were loving every minute of it. 

This year I’ve watched you grow into a maturity I haven’t seen yet.  I’ve watched you start to find yourself and feel more confident in your own skin.  I’ve seen you take adversity and work through it.  I’ve watched you overcome fears and try things you’ve not been willing to try before.  I am more proud of you than I can express and truly can not wait to see what the next year brings!


Current events:

  • Trump won the presidency in Nov 2024 and he took office in Jan 2025. 
  • A humanitarian crisis in the Gaza strip and the war in the Ukraine still continues.  The world outside of our little tiny bubble is actually very scary right now.  There is lots that we need to be paying attention to and a lot of groups of people that need us to speak out on their behalf.
  • The Pope died in April 2025 and the new Pope is actually from Chicago!  There are lots of funny jokes about him bringing Chicago style pizza and other Chicago traditions to Rome.
  • It feels like AI has taken over the world!  I’m using it almost daily now and I am really worried that we’ve created a monster worse than social media and cell phones.  I’ve been able to keep you and Hazel away from it so far, but I think it’s only a matter of time before you start using it and incorporating it into your life.



Are Owies still around?:  They sure are!  I have no idea how much longer, but for now, they are still very much in your every single night.    


A sweet story about you:

If you asked me to pick one word to describe you for the last year its maturity.  I am seriously so impressed with how far we’ve come since last year.  This summer we didn’t have a fully time nanny like we did last year which meant that you and Hazel were left to figure it out for a lot of the summer.  It took a few weeks to get into it (and past the fighting) but here we are, nearing the end of summer and I feel like you’ve stepped into responsibility with grace and a generally good attitude.  You are willing to help your sister in ways you’d argued about before.  You are trying new things and “taking risks” in ways you never would have before.  You are able to stay home alone (giving me and Daddy some flexibility we haven’t had in 13 years) and your willingness to take care of Penny and embrace all things puppyhood is something that I just can’t let go unnoticed.

You accept things you’d normally fight me on…you suggest solutions and compromises in ways that make me want to be flexible back.  You accept responsibility and accountability in ways that I’m not seeing others your age do it.  Years 10-12 were rough – we had a lot to work through and I’m not quite willing to say “we’ve come through to the other side” because we still have a lot of “teenage” milestones ahead but for now I’m celebrating and recognizing how far we’ve come.  You’ve helped me become a better parent through all of it and so I owe you a big giant thank you!  You are helping me learn and grow as much as I’m helping you.  So thank you, my first born.  The one who made me a mom and the one who is teaching me to be a good mom every single day.  We’re figuring it out together.  I love you to the moon and back.  


Current prices:

  • Eggs: $6.00 – Bird flu caused egg prices to soar over the last year.
  • Gas: $3.59 – generally lower than last year. 
  • Plane ticket: $350ish – AI claims that flight prices are down this year but I don’t know that it really feels that way.  That being said, we picked up flights to Hawaii later this year for around $450 a ticket and that felt like a STEAL!  


Fashion trends:

90’s/early 2000’s style is somehow back.  Wide-leg jeans, brands like the Limited and Dehlia’s are coming back…high rise trousers, metallics, cropped denim etc.



Things you’ve learned in the past year:

  •       You got your first boyfriend this year!  His name is Jayden and it all became “official” right before school ended.  You’ve seen him a few times over the summer, but I’ll be interested to see how it goes when everyone goes back to school.  For now he’s been great for your self-confidence and for that I’ll be forever grateful.  We met him and his parents at the fireworks in town this summer and they seem really great! (photo above includes both Jayden and Evie) 
  •       Restarted horseback riding – we’re just a few weeks in but we’re trying out a new barn with a new teacher and I have to say that you are enjoying it so much more than our last teacher.  I think you just needed a more positive/supportive teacher vs one who just rides you about the things you are doing wrong.  You 100% react better to positivity than tough love.
  •       Did a “toilet bowl” slide – I’m honestly not exactly sure what this means, but you were very excited about it when you came home from the pool the other day.  I’m so glad that you are trying things that seem a little scary and finding out there is fun in the risk!
  •       Passed the hardest level of rock climbing at Girl Scout camp – Girl Scout camp was a full on success this year.  You were far less stressed heading into it – though, those little fears almost always pop up.  But, you’ve learned that once you are there it’s great and I think this year you were finally able to remember that going into it.  It sounds like you met a great group of girls too and you’ve been keeping in touch with them over the summer. 
  •       Learned how to dive – another win from camp!  It still needs work and practice, but you’ve finally nailed it!




Interest rates: 4.5% - while that is down from last year this time, it’s still very high compared to how it was 10, or even 5 years ago.  The economy has been wild lately.  Rates are high, unemployment is high, prices are high….everything is pretty rough financially these days.

Current President:  Donald Trump (blah!)


Your best friends: “Stella, Kayden, Evie and that’s really it!”.  A direct quote from you and honestly, I agree with this statement.  While the list is significantly down from last year, I think you’re finding your people and I love that so much.

Pop Culture:

  • AI and social media – it’s everywhere and yes, I hate it.  Personally I’m no longer posting on social media and I feel like I’m seconds away from coming off the platforms all together. 
  • 90s/2000s are back – in style, in culture, in movies…the bands are doing comebacks, the movies are being remade or sequels are being launched.  You see wide leg jeans and chokers everywhere. 
  • “Global fusion” – or the introduction of things like K-pop (Korean Pop), Latin Music, Afrobeats…as social media, online presence and unlimited access to the internet took off, so did exposure to trends from other areas of the globe.  These trends are making their way into our house – all the way in tiny Marengo 😊

What was on your birthday list this year?  This summer we did a joint pool party/birthday with Hazel back in July so you’ve already gotten the majority of the gifts for your birthday already.  Some of the coolest things you got were swimming with dolphins in Hawaii (Grandpa), a bow and arrow (Grandma and Papa), a cool leather dice board for D&D (Henry and Gina), a new mermaid tail and a nail kit to do gel nails.  But…what you don’t know yet, but will soon, is that Daddy an are “giving you your own phone” for your birthday this year.  Basically we’re going to let you start taking your phone to school daily and I’m getting a second “house phone” that Hazel will probably use exclusively.  That’ll mean all four of us have phones now – blah.  But, I’m glad I made it 13 years!  I think that’s better than most!  





Wednesday, July 23, 2025

Beach Photoshoot

 


It's been a little over a month since we said goodbye to Panama City Beach and we've just received our photos from the photo shoot Mom and Dad scheduled.  I couldn't be more pleased with how these came out!  They look amazing!


We are so rarely at the "beach" that these photos end up being so unique in the set of year over year family photos.  I know I'll be printing a whole slew of these to hang around the house. 












Monday, July 21, 2025

Penny's Here!


 She's here!  She's here!  Penny is here!  It's the day we've all been waiting for (yes, even me!).


I'm writing this blog a few weeks later, we've had Penny for about 3 weeks now and I have to admit two things:
  1. Ryan was right about getting a puppy in the summer when the kids can help take care of her, and get to play with her all day long.
  2. I said we weren't ready for a puppy just yet, but honestly, she's great.  


I think Penny is going to be much smaller than Copper.  Her Mom was small in stature and based on pictures of Penny at this age vs. Rooster at the same age last summer, I'd say Penny is tiny compared to him!


But, more than bragging about Penny, what I really have to tell you about is to brag about Abby.  Abby was determined, from the day we told her we were getting a puppy that this dog was going to be hers.  That Penny would be her dog, that'd she'd take care of her and raise her and hopefully Penny would love her the most.  Ryan convinced me to just let her try.  So night one (the worst night...the night the puppies cry and cry for the whole night because they miss their families and they miss their moms and they don't understand why they are alone for the first time every) we set up the kennel in Abby's room and left Penny in there for the night.

Abby got up every time Penny cried and took her out to go pee.  She listened to her cry and comforted her from her bed.  And, here we are 3+ weeks later and Penny's cage hasn't moved.  She spend every night in Abby's room.  She's getting up sometimes 3-4 times per night (sometimes she doesn't need to go out at all) and letting this puppy out to pee.  I've done NONE of it....and it's the most amazing thing ever.  I'm so impressed with her commitment and willingness to take care of this puppy.  You could never have convinced me that this would be how it would play out.  


Three weeks in and Penny is getting bigger and more adventurous every day.  Copper is playing with her so nicely and putting up with all her shenanigans.  He's kind and gentle and willing to get down on the ground and play tug of war with her.  I love Goldens so much!  The are the perfect family dog and I don't think anyone is ever going to be able to convince me otherwise.


*A tiny gym puppy


Penny chooses to sleep and relax in some of the funniest poses I've ever seen.  This is one of her preferred positions - she does it all the time.  And then there is the "sploot".  I'll have to grab a photo of it next time, but imagine her back legs laid fully behind her - as if she was a human laying flat on her belly, legs and arms out.  That's exactly how she relaxes.  It's hilarious and I sort of hope she never grows of it.


The back seat is especially full now.  Not sure if the girls will always appreciate having two dogs in the back with them, but while Penny is small, it works out fine!  That's a problem for another day.

Friday, July 18, 2025

1 Family x 12 (July)

 


When we were in Florida Mom scheduled a family photoshoot and there is no better picture for our July family photo!  I've got a slew more to post, but for now, these this gem.

Sunday, July 13, 2025

A Double Birthday Pool Party - for double digits and a teenager!

 


This summer Hazel turned 10 (double digits!) and Abby is turning 13 in just about a month from now.  Can you even believe it!?  I think that means I'm officially out of the "little kid" phase of life.  That's both exciting and a little sad - I think both things can be true at the same time.


No McGrath kid birthday would be complete without a custom cake from Auntie.  These girls are so spoiled - I don't even know if they realize how cool it is that they can dream up just about any theme and Erin will deliver!  This year's theme was "dog park" because it's the summer of Puppy!  Penny turned 8 weeks the Friday before our party and while we didn't have her yet (it felt like a little too much for a baby puppy to bring her home and toss her into a birthday party with 70 people and full of kids), the only thing the girls could think about was getting her.  So...the them: Dog Park, and boy oh boy, did Erin out do herself!  It's even gluten free for Abby.


Ryan lives for a big summer pool party at the house.  He loves having everyone here, he loves hosting and getting all our favorite people together in one spot to celebrate, so I compromised and we landed on this joint summer birthday party.  With the girls birthdays only a month and a half apart (and add in all the summer trips and camps we did between Hazel's bday and Abby's) and doing it in late July felt right!


The weather worked out - it was set to rain up until the day before...and while it started out a little cool and cloudy, in the end people still got in the pool, I still had to ditch my jeans for shorts and everyone was able to be outside.  We have such a great backyard space for hosting, I'm always thankful for being able to do parties outdoors.


This was Jamie's last drinks before she started the path of surrogacy (another story for another blog post), so we had to document it with a photo!  


Everyone spoiled the girls and they got tons of gifts and money.  This was the first time the girls really got a lot of money and I'm really very impressed - it's not burning a hole in their pockets.  They both opted to have it added to their bank accounts and they are saving it until they find something they really want.  Hazel has her heart set on some new lego sets when the new ones come out here in a few months and they are both saving some money for when we go to Hawaii later this year.


LOL!  I nearly made this photo the family photo for the month.  It made me laugh so hard...Ryan is hilarious.  



Dan got the girls what I'm going to call the most memorable gift of the party - tickets to swim with dolphins when we are in Hawaii.  It's a long play, we aren't going until November but I know this is going to be something they will remember for the rest of their lives and I'm excited to experience it with them!


Saturday, July 12, 2025

Hazel went to Goat Camp (again!)


Last summer the week Abby went to Girl Scout camp lined up with Stella and Lucy's camp for the summer - Goat Camp, so they invited Hazel along.  The girls had so much fun at Grandma Jody's house and going to Goat Camp that they wanted to do it again this summer.  The stars aligned again (and so did Girl Scout camp) so Hazel spent 3 nights at Apple Canyon with Stella and Lucy.


The girls recreated some of their favorite activities from last year and tried some new things - like jumping from the rocks!  They were so brave.


They swam, rode horses, went tubing, hosted a lemonade stand, attended Goat Camp and overall it sounds like they all had a great time, except for the part that Hazel got a fever on the second day and maybe, in the end it was hand foot and mouth...I'm not really sure, but one day was a total flop for Fran.  She skipped the goats and took a 2 hour nap instead.  I think she felt a little better after that, but she wasn't herself even when she got home the next day.


I love that these girls are making all kinds of memories together!  Summers are fun...full of friends, sun, adventures and lots of laughs.  Hazel rated the week "a 4 because I was sick but if I wasn't sick, I'd give it a 5".